What is the most important things to do in life?
Do not disturb yourself by thinking of the whole
of your life.Do not let your thoughts at once embrace all the various troubles
which you may expect to befall you; but on every occasion ask yourself
“What is there in this which is intolerable and
past bearing?For you will be ashamed to confess. (Marcus Aurelieus)
Life is full of difficulties.But don’t despise
life.Human life is an opportunity to learn and grow.You have lessons to learn
and grow.You have lessons to learn and develop your wisdom.if you don’t learn
deeply you have to come back again to learn .Al the difficulties you are
growing through are very meaningful,if you have the right attitude and proper
perspective.You must help others to live a meaningful life and there are others who will help you.We
must have some kammic connection.We will help
eachother.
So,please don’t think all these difficulties are meaningless.
We can’t go around ; we have to go through.
Things will never be perfect in
life.Better not to expect perfection.I’m not perfect;I’ll never be, and I don’t
expect that.
“That which doesn’t kill me
makes me stronger .”( Nietzsche)
Even with
all its apin,disappointment,despair and regret, I still find life interesting
and meaningful.
“The times when you are wounded are often times
when,out of these wounds,come new thoughts,new possibilities.”
“Joy increase to the extent that the capacity for woe does also.”
Life would be so superficial and boring if there
were no hardships.
Suffer , Learn
and Grow .
I have suffered a lot and I suffer now,but I
suffer calmly with dignity.I take suffering as part of life ,a very
important part .How can I learn
anything if I don’t suffer? But I stay
calm when I suffer.Who would be believe that I have deep suffering? I don’t
think there should be no suffering; I don’t think that there is something wrong
because there is suffering ;I don’t think I should try to remove suffering; I
do not try to overcome suffering ,but I try to make suffering meaningful; I try
to understand suffering deeply.No resistance.I’m not depressed or agitated.
I only hope that I am wise enough to understand suffering and
life .
Each
time I suffer intensely, I take
a step forward towards detachment.It teaches me to let go.Samdura(
the second Noble Truth: Desire ) leads to Dukkha ( suffering). How
simply and how true.
We have hard lives.So,we learn a lot more than
easygoing people.My life is very hard
too. Anyway I like it.I have learnt quite a lot; feeling,seeing , and learnig
deeply.If you are mindful,suffering makes you see things very deeply.I don’t want a
carefree life , nor do I want to live superficially,but I do want to know all
about life and suffering .
Most people live their life very superficially
.They are born into a society and they live the values into which they are born ;they are caught up in the
society.
You have to be very clear about what you want
from life in order to create your own value and live it.
Even when
you create you own value (judgment ) you must keep on looking into it and see
whether it is realistic, see how it affects your mind.
Living your life is an art.There is no formula.You
must always be alert and creative
.Once you lose creativity you are as good as dead.Creativity in living
one’s life is so rare.No wonder people behave like robots! No wonder they have no joy.
All of us have ups
and downs .It is important to see them objectively.
To take my life one moment at a time.
Not to think too much and confused my mind.To accept life as it is and also to be ready to die at
any moment.They say life is hard.It’s even hard for those
who don’t need to work . But still you can be cheerful and learn a lot from your life.And if you prefer you can go out of this
round existence.(Is it a merry- go round ?)
I don’t like Dukkha at all.Do you? Here life is simple,and I want it to be
even more simple.
Stay calm;wait; be patient.Do whatever
is possible at the moment. Nothing lasts forever.Things will change ,possibly
for the better if you stay clear and calm, but if you get agitated and run
around like crazy you will disturb the situation.
All the things
that happened to me in the past brought me here, to this point.Since I’m living
a meaningful and peaceful life in the present moment now ,I feel ok about the
past. I forgive myself and everybody and
I’m greatful to all of them for what they have done to me or for me .
Life is very
important .The way we live our life,the way we relate to people is the
reflection of our practice of Dhamma. Where you live and with whom you
associate is very important.Some people and palces put your mind in a bad mood,
and to be in a bad mood all the time can really damage your mind.You are very
subtly influenced by people around you.
Life isn’t so
bad.At times it can be really peaceful, blissful, but I don’t want another life
.I’m trying to inderstand my self and
others and life deeper.To understand is the main thing in my life.I have less
carving for things which makes my mind lighter. However I still have craving
for books.No desire to do anything
great . Just trying to live my
life with the most understanding .
I’m doing what I
can.Not taking anything too seriously.Everything which arises passes away
.Nothing really happen the way I want it.So it is better not to worry to much;
not to insist that it should happen the way I want it, especially with people
____ they have their own mind their own preferences.
So many things have happened in my life
time.People have duffered so much because they take things too seriously ,not
knowing that it is not worth the trouble
. Everything passes away.It’s not worth
getting too attached to anything.
Every situation /experience in life ,whether it’s
good or bad is an opportunity to learn.
To be able to accept uncertainty,and
live with it,is a sure sign of maturity.We often want to sure about our
life.Whatever will be,will be.
Before we know about our life we say “It’s not good ”
.Before we have learnt how to live our life
we want to know how to overcome
it. All head and no hearts makes life very dry .I
just hope that you know what you want to
do with your life . Do something that will help you feel really happy
all your life until you die .
Yes,the world is
crazy,What can I do about it? Nothing.Why waste time and energy being
upset about it ? If you want pleasure you have to accept the pain which comes with it .If you don’t want pain then don’t go after
pleasure.Defilements makes life complicated. Without greed,desire and attachment you can live a simple life .I
know it’s too hard for you,but at least
you can be a layman living a simple life .You have conflicting desire.
First of all
understand your mind deeply .How do you want to live your life.What do you want
to value most in life ?There is no satisfaction in anything at all , and yet we
think,
“I’d be happy if
….” Looking for satisfaction is
looking for pain.Knowing this deeply we learn to go.With no peace we are still confused and
unhappy.Intellectual understanding is not enough;it explains and explains and
the problems pile up___ there is no end to explanations .
When you don’t
know what to do ,when you are confused,then you really start looking.It is an
opportunity for a new beginning . Uncertainty is unpleasant but it makes the mind become alart. What to do? Look deeply your mind without
thinking too much .Keep your heart open to uncertainty . You have “
don’t know mind” now .It is a part of your growing process; it wakes you up from your slumber.
I hope you are
not unhappy about being confused .Life
is a strange,at least for me .
Life is a series of change.No finality
or certainty. Always experimenting with
with new ways of living and relating ,
thinking that there must be a perfect
partner to live with ;fooling ourselves all the time. How scared we
would be without such make- believe! But as we grow up and become more and more disillusioned we find
out slowly that there is no
perfect place in the world , no perfect
friend…….nothing in the world is perfect.I’m not perfect and I never be . They say the
Buddha was perfect .
Is there
anything you know for sure ?How full of assumption our life is.Full of make- believe.We are standing on assumptions .If we take away all the
assumptions we’ll have nothing to stand on.Are you really sure what are you
living for? Yes ? What is that ?
Beliefs,assumptions
and hopes .Enough !!! Without them the minds becomes light .Thoses are burdens.Without those one can pay more attention to what is .
You know that if you are not living for
something ,eaningful your life is
meaningless .What are you living for?
Truth,live , political ideal,your country ?You see it’s hard to answer .No?
If you have an answer, say, truth .Then does your everyday life show any proof for your answer ? My dear friend,we are so lost .We
are going nowhere.We are drifting like
a boat with no rudder .
It’s quite amazing the
way people are living their life
,without any direction ,goal or meaning in life , without metta ( loving- kindness) and understanding
for each other .What a great mess life is !
Some people are just
drifting ,going nowhere.They have no
direction, no aim ; they are lost.They
don’t understand life ,the meaning of life , and the
nature of samsara ( the cycle of births and deaths ),You don’t know the value
of what you have until you lose it .
Do what is the most important . There are many useful
things one can do but we must limit ourselves
and what is best .
One should unserstand
deeply that one has been almost everything ( man, woman, rich,poor, educated, powerful
,etc,etc .) Why be the same this life ?
We need some sort of ideal in our life , so that we have some direction /purpose,but
we shouldn’t become crazy about our
ideal. The best ideal is to be mindful always .
“ How to make life as
simple as possible ? ” Make your mind as
simple as possible ,then your life will be simple . it is greed hand - in- hand with ignorance which
makes life so complicated .Not easy when almost everbody around you is living such as greedy,speedy and complicated life
.One needs great wisdom and a strong
mind not to follow them . Before you know it ,you are thinking of what to
do to prove that you are not failure.
It’s hard to live your life without
thinking of what others think of you .
Religious or political
ideals cause a lot more harm to humanity . Religious wars and political wars
prove that . it is really ironic: they talk about love and yet they can’’t bear
the sight of eachother : they talk about
solidarity and unity ,yet create schism and faction instead.
Now I’m thinking for
myself . It is my responsibility to
find out how I want
to live my life , what I want to live
for .If I make a mistake I am the
one who responsible ;I can’t
blame anybody .
I cannot be sure about
my value judgements and the choices I make .I have to always be on the
alert and see how my thinking affect my life .This not easy to do . I need to be very
mindful ,sensitive and absolutely honest
with myself .